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I admit it, I'm probably too much of a liberal feminist for most people's tastes around here. I believe that both men and women should discuss birth control before having sex with a partner, because more often then not, they don't and somebody ends up with something they don't want. I also believe women should protect themselves by having condoms around, since men often "conveniently" forget.

For whatever reasons, it appears that both sexes seem more willing to take the risks than to have that "frank" discussion. Both men and women I've spoken to here admit that they don't worry too much about pregnancy or STD. The reasons? "If I get pregnant, I would at least have some responsibility. After all, I can't get a job," said one female university graduate. "Birth control pills will put hair on your upper-lip and make women fat," said one 26-year old male.

These two statements say everything about Serbia's conditions in the late 1990's. Sex education and protected sex are on the bottom of the priority list. What is there to educate Serbs about and from what do we need protection, you might ask....
The general excuses for having unprotected sex makes me feel as if I'm living in some time warp. a. everybody they sleep with is the boy or girl next door (Ha!) b. condoms are uncomfortable for men, and therefore undesirable (does anybody think about how uncomfortable an abortion is?) c. the woman are practicing the rhythm method, which is believed to be an effective form of birth control (but proven by science to be the least effective) and c. AIDS is something other countries have to be worried about, not Serbia.

It would be nice if all those things were true, if sex could be free of latex and psychological complications. Maybe everybody would enjoy themselves more and sex could be more....natural. But the reality is much different and not even Serbs can afford at this point to operate under old myths.

sorry, this condom is not downloadable :)

In the U.S. we learn about sex from school, the media, from friends and our parents. Sometimes the message is incomplete and needs to be complimented by experience. However, the facts are out there in mass quantities and there's little chance that you can avoid them. After six months in Belgrade, I've seen little AIDS education, no anonymous AIDS testing centers, virtually no condom ads, and no public discourse on the subject. It is as if the country is waiting for there to be an epidemic before responding.
Before moving to Belgrade, friends who had spend time here before the war told me wild tales of promiscuity --leading me to believe that most of the generation under 35 was probably sharing the same blood type. This was the cosmopolitan, well-traveled crowd who grew up in Belgrade's most liberal period of the 1980's before AIDS entered into the global vocabulary. But today people can't afford to be ignorant. Even in Serbia, AIDS cases already number about 6,000 and those are only the reported cases. How many people make the calculations and assess the risks before jumping into bed with somebody, especially considering how many drug users there are here. The problem is not here yet, many argue.
If Serbs need to feel safe against AIDS-ridden America, Western Europe, Africa and Asia . Fine. They can live happily under that illusion. But soon, I presume, the conditions will change and westernization will not just mean the chance to buy Diet Coke at every kiosk. Belgrade and other cities in Yugoslavia could become the next ex-pat havens once privatization takes hold and the investors, consultants and other super-marketers start marching in. Imagine a large, young and single expat population and a new crop of nightspots catering to young, capitalist wanna-be yuppies, not to mention a booming sex industry catering to rich, bored businessmen. Are Serbs prepared to deal with the liberal sexual attitudes and behavior that might follow with Westernization, not to mention IV drug use and prostitution?
There are a few who are. One 2nd year medical student recently took up an initiative from his social medicine class to educate young teens about AIDS prevention. So far he has spoken to one school. "The point is to get them using condoms when they begin their sex lives so they don't have to compare the feeling'" he said. "That is the problem with our generation. They know too well their sex lives without them." He used a banana to demonstrate how to use condoms and he explained that AIDS is not something limited only to homosexuals and IV drug users anymore. The teens listened intently, he said.
If Serbs my age aren't getting the message, I hope most of them are leaving circulation and becoming faithfully married by now.

by Jennifer C. Brown    

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Your previous talk back on the subject above:
American preaching - David
so misleading - Kyle Reynolds
A different view on Serbs - T. Leardi
vushtrri - arben gerxhaliu
Seeking.... - Mike B
SEx in serbia - You dont have to fucking know
sex in serbia - lulu kite
sex in serbia - jnmz mzjn
this is so wrong - american in europe
looking for.. - Nikola
Finding Nikola Vujic - Tracy( Van Koevering)Scheid
Seatching for Tall Serbian boy named Nikola who was in Boston in 2001 - Anonymous Girl
Nikola from Belgrade - Anonymous Girl
Poppers - Nik N
Rush Poppers - Mad Hatter
Hmm - Sanja Macura
sex in Serbia - Nikola Vujic
you need a dick in your mouth shits supposed to come from yo ass not mouth hoe - marko vuletic
your not a woman where do you come from dumb tramp - marko vuletic
shes a queer faggot bitch look at her nation loving faggots who carry desease - marko vuletic
LONG LIVE SRBIJA AND CETNIKS, - marko vuletic
faggot bitch you continue talking shit bout my country i'll find and fucking $%^^ you understand - marko Vuletic
response to your sex in srbija speech - marko vuletic
Sex in Serbia - Miki Manojlo
love - scott Becker
shame on you all - Ena Milic
HRVATI STOOOOOKO - Boban Cancar
Sex in Serbia - Sex junky
not all serbs are bad - Erin Hagood
comment................ - Ruth Alexander
Rados Jovanovic - Evelyn Cullinane
Sex in serbia? Do tell us, Jennifer..... - Damian A.
sex in serbia - Rachel DeVille
ZELENA BERETKA - SERB AND IM PROUD
What the fuck - SERB AND IM PROUD
generalization is so stupid - nadia akhrif
Jen, Serbia may be bad for your health - Nenad Nekic
That is right - Mary Hansson
You are so smart - Dragoljub mihajloviĉ
An answer - Dusan Kurcic
Ma hajde, molim te ... govedo debelo!!! - Kecman Kec
HAHAHAHA - Zelena Beretka
sex in serbia - pera cetnik
Sta nam bre ova stranjkinja prodaje pamet ??? (to Jeny) - Luc (19)
articles on belgrade--- - northern star
sex foto - avni konjuhi
Moderno je voditi stranca na povocu kroz Bgd...nista novo... - Alexander The Great
sisaj ga vestice - djole pussykilla
Sex In Serbia - Marta Sk
what are you saying? - Devoshka Kolashnikov
sex in serbia-talk back - Aleksandra Nesic
any body wanna play hide the kobasa? - Serbian gay boy
Sex - jake djuric
talk back - vlada s.
feedback - Milivoje Vatrogasac
Serbian boyfriend - Sevda Ozdemir
AIDS CONTROL - Paolo Wu
Sex in Serbia - Vanja Panajotovic
American with Belgrade boyfriend - Yvonne Lowrance
reply - Misa Car
Just a queston - Nikola Lazic
Don't worry Mrs. Mijanovic - Some othet time
666 - ivo drvo
sex in serbia - Marijana Mijanovic
SADDAM YOU HAVE NO DICK - CRNOGORAC PIMPOVIC
seks - du$an kovacevic
za sva vremena - Mudjahedin Balijasevich
Gonite se Nacionalisti lada nemozete normalno da diskutujete - Partizan- Komunjara I poslije Tita TITO
JELI PICHKE STO NAM KORISTITE IME - Wu-Tra Clang
OJ TURCI!!!!!!! - SALE -SRBIN 101%
YUGOSLAVIA AND AMERICA - ALEKSANDAR MOJIC
JENNIFER NEEDS EXPLANATION!!!!!! - Serbian Chick
bend over baby, here comes my tomahawk! - Elvis Presley
od Bude! - DARKO BUDIMIR
Omer Pasi - Radovan Karadjic
Jenny - Bojan Draskovic
Bezite Turci - Bojan Draskovic
Who the fuck is Jennifer, anyway. - BOBAN London
sex and bombs - Dragan Georgevic
re: sex in Serbia - Goran Sesum
TURCI SMRDE!!! - SRBIJA ZA UVEK
SRBI RULE!! - SERBIAN GODDESS
Amazed by number of replies Jennifer generates - Marko Popovic
Jeniferr, the slut - Marko Kraljevic
CMARINE VLASKE - OMER PASA LATAS
AIDS Prevention - shawnlun Brown
Duvaj ga OBREZANI Alija i crkni - Ubica Alije Izetbegovica
General but clean - ahmet ersoz
koga briga - maja i igor
Pozdrav s toplog Jadrana - Franjo T.
to Jennifer - Franjo T.
stranac - Hans Braak
JENNIFER, NE BUDI PEDER - NIK SLOTER
sex in Belgrade - Elizabeth Sibinovic
nesto veoma vazno o sexu - bosnia bosnia bosnia bosnia
Just to say Hi! - Mike Kshatriya
gde je bre taj sex? - sharkey liberal
Da li je moguce da smo toliki rasisti? - mia vasic
Jao, jao, jadni li ste svi - Srboljub Djordjevic
alija - sumadinac moravac
sexinserbia - Ljubinkovic Nikola
alija... - Saint The
Ana, durex i orbit se ne koriste za iste stvari - Alija Izetbegovic
alija - ana j.
Puse mi ga drolje srpske - Alija Izetbegovic
sex in serbia - ana j.
The so called uncle sam - Ultras Boston
Beonet??? - Belgrado
Yeah, Sam! - Uncle Sam
Sam Sorio is on Drugs!! - Ultras Boston
Sex In Serbia - Richard Petrovic
sex in srbija - LJubinkovic Nikola
Ajme ajme - Ajmemajko Djeni
Jao krave li krave.. - Majko Mila
serbian birth control - Saddam Hussein
Sex in serbia - Hillary Clinton
Iskompleksirana kravo - Cika Bill
TURANJE GDI TREBA - Zestimir Zestimirovich
SEX USRBIJI - SLOBODAN MILOSHEVICH
PRACKO NE SERI - moratic pedja
Sex i samo sex - Kecko Prckovic
Jebacu te lose - gagi gagi
Geni - JenGoHome AtOnce
Radovan Djonovic - Djonom Naradovana
Sex in Serbija - Radovan Djonovic
Jennifer !! Mamu ti jebem kapitalisticku !!! - Dilan Dog
That is LiFe! - Bojan ljubanovic
To Sam Sorio!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - Aleksandra . A
Nauci Srpski Konju jadan!!!!!! - Aleksandra A
To je vasno - Marko Milojkovic
Neznanje i bezobrazluk-sex u Srbiji - svetlana mihailovic
Serbia - Natasa Natasa
primitivna si kao da si s' medvedima rasla - Ivan Petrovic
personal impressions about serbian guys - inma clerigues
Marko Jankovic - Govno Smrdic
ONE MORE THING - Marko Jankovic
SEX - Marko Jankovic
Moje male pizda - Muhamed Pizdic II
Have some Understanding, please! - Nenad T. Jovanovic
Zoran Petrovic - Govno Smrdic
Sex? - Sasko D. Velkovski
YOU ARE RIGHT... - Biljana Zdrale
You are right... - Biljana Zdrale
Za miro jeber - ky mi
Sex in Serbia - Vladimir Srdanovic
200 years of american sex - Jaric P. Zivadin
sex in serbia - milos vrazitorovic
bane ivanovicu--care!!CAREEEEE!!!!!! - milenko milenko
Strasno - Zoran Petrovic
Majke ti ga zbutkam, kravo iz Ohaja - Bane Ivanovic
boze pomozi ! - Joco Rasic
Sex - Pepsi c
Stokooooo!!! - doesn't matter
ziveo gangsta rap - TUPAC SHAKUR IZ AUSTRALIJE
no subject - Rodic Nedeljko
Wasted good intentions - Sam Sorio
You have no idea ...... - Glupi SRBIN......
Jede Govna Americka Picka - Milutin Ninkovich
żwho knows the true? - José Arenas / Joca Pesak
General view - George,North America
No Subject - Dejan Markovic
comment - miro jeber
svinjooooo americkaaa - Petar Petrovic
hallo - matija jelinovic
da - vladimir majkic
Sex in Serbia - Dick Simic
Precednik & Slut From Da Wezt! - Nije Bitno
DANAS SE KLINKE SATIRU OD ... - WUTRA-CLAN MAFIA
sex in Serbia - Goran Despotovic
RE - Edoardo Barberio
mistake - jelena blazich
Sex in Srbija - Mirjana Obradovic
SEX - n msrsdfsrwDSC
problem with sex in serbia????????????? - Nikola Panic
sex u srba - svetozar markovic
Open your eyes! - Sanja Zaric
SEX - DICK RICHARDSON
Over-rated AIDS problem - Dushan Savich
sex - Jonel Junior
no subject - josip saric
it is not that bad - Aleksandra Sreckovic
SEX - Timo Koch
as above! - igor igor
your site - R Don Martin
none - marko dasic
sex - aca krstic